Sometimes I will just impressed by the accuracy of the reflection of reality..
Mom always complained that dad did not bother to take initiative to help out with house chores at home..i do added up by complaining why do guys always so free to unwind in front of tv and pc whilst girls n ladies have incomplete tasks forever??? (In this case I was doing never ending assignments and homeworks while mom was cleaning the forever ‘uncleaned’ house..at the same time the tv in front of dad showed the champion league football teams and bro was engrossed in pc games and anime)
Instead of quoting confucious as I Ms Christine frequently did..i will quote John Gravy who said that..women used to be specialist homemaker and men used to be specialist money earner..men want the tradition of relaxing at home after 1 day’s work and women hopes to change the tradition of men helping them with a mess at home after 1 day’s work..men want the traditional women and traditional lifestyle and women want a new men as they could not follow a traditional lifestyle..in another words women want a wife..haha..interesting..
Why does ladies easily stressed up??? They constantly think of what need to be done and who still need her..a never ending to-do list stucked in their mind..thats what mom always grumbled wherever we go “I still have loads of loads of house chores just keep everything short and I need to get back home asap!!!” for me I erm..ehem..do not usually complained in this way with some reason that u may know..instead I complain a lot about homeworks and pressure of not getting good results..
And the most important thing…guys..don’t try to go to the point of solving problem when girls are complaining..they juz need u to hear…before this I thought Im a weirdo coz everytime I complain bout sth whenver sbd says “ relaxxxxxxxxxx” I don’t feel relax but instead erm feel slightly..erm..offended mayb..so thx to john gravy who told me that its normal..he said that when ladies complained she just need people to ask ques on how why when what and express sympathy and concern rather than cutting it short to solving problem like “ why don’t u just…..” but now I knew that guys do not talk out to release stress thus they misunderstand that when girls talk to them they are seeking solutions..and guys must remember that when girls stressed up don’t jus leave her alone thinking that she needs time (of course not everytime and guys gotta use their wisdom to act according to the situation..complicated..huh) I have the experiences of turning from slightly annoyed to frustration just bcoz nobody cares and notice the switch of my mood..
By this time some will ask..why don’t u juz tel out that u need help..again..John Gravy understand that girls don’t like to go straight to the point and they expect others to know what she thinks and know what to do..this reminds me of myself giving thousand clues just to avoid explaining simple things..when I get annoyed of guys still couldn’t catch what I mean..guys on the other hand have been pissed off with me hitting around the bush..hehe
Another point that impressed me was that..boys helping girls can reduce their stress but girls doing too much for guys wouldn’t have the same effect and might be counterproductive..it reflects the truth perfectly well..girls can help guys by just being happy..how many shed tears just because they don’t understand that..girls..don’t be so stupid sacrifing too much for guys anymore sometimes u wouldn’t get what u want in return other than hurting urself..hehe..from now on..just try to make ursef happy..but guys..at times girls think too much of what they need to do for u all and they think what they need is a second priority..
Most of the situations described in the book are in my life..whether I experienced it or I saw with my eyes..to know more bout it..just get a copy of “Why Mars & Venus Collide”
P/s: I am tempted to blame all my weaknesses to the fact that im a girl..hehe..can I????
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